Set an Intention

Lotte Vesterli on January 18, 2021

Did you check your phone time last Monday? If you did and set the intention to change it, did you notice that the time spent on your phone dropped this past week?

Setting a clear intention and telling our mind what you want is a powerful tool to make a change in your life. When say what you want, your subconscious mind will start working to make that thing happen, often without your conscious mind even noticing. In cases like phone use, my clients report that their time dropped even if they did not think about “I have to use my phone less” at all.

Give your mind something to work on, and watch it do its magic.

Build a Health Habit

Lotte Vesterli on January 15, 2021

A lot of people have a health goal among their New Year’s resolutions. Goals focus your attention, but health goals tend to be “I should” goals set with your mind instead of your heart. Ideally, you would work on finding your true “why” and set a heart goal that will be much easier to achieve. But the next best thing is to build a habit instead. If you can create a habit of exercising, or a habit of eating home-cooked food instead of takeaway, your health will improve.

In Denmark where I live, we have costal climate. That means it doesn’t really get cold in winter, and snow is a rare occurrence. But we just had snow and we’ll have freezing temperatures this weekend. I’ll be taking some long walks this weekend. What will you do to support your new health habit this weekend?

Reduce Your Carbon Footprint

Lotte Vesterli on January 14, 2021

You can improve your life by reducing your carbon footprint. Scientists may argue over whether the individual choice you make has any actual impact on the climate, but that is not the point. The point is that we all need to feel we make a difference. Using a reusable shopping bag, eating less meat or taking your bicycle to work is one way to do so.

There are many ways to reduce your carbon footprint, and many websites with advice to help you. Find one thing you can easily do and start doing that. Track your progress and when you have established that one thing as a habit, you can start on the next.

Workplace Bulling

Lotte Vesterli on January 13, 2021

Working from home has decreased bullying by bosses and co-workers. Workplace bullying often happens in informal conversations, and there are simply fewer of these when working from home. If you find that you are actually happier and less stressed when working from home, that can be an indicator that you were having negative workplace interactions you might not even consciously notice.

Keep a log of how you feel (for example in a journal, as I discussed yesterday). Start now when you are working from home, and continue it once you get back to the office. If you find that you feel worse back in the office, start paying attention to the tone of your interactions at work. There might be subtle bullying happening that you don’t notice. 

Write a Journal

Lotte Vesterli on January 12, 2021

Are you writing a journal? It has known for centuries that journaling helps you deal with the questions and anxieties you are facing. Many great people through the ages have said that journaling was the most important way for them to handle the pressures of life and improve themselves.

For someone suffering from anxiety, the most important benefit of journaling is that when you write your worries down, some of the energy drains out of them. Negative thoughts about things you have written down will appear less or might completely disappear.

You can journal on your computer, on a mobile device or in a paper notebook. Try it and you will find it improves your life.

Spend Less Time on Your Phone

Lotte Vesterli on January 11, 2021

Are you aware of how you are spending your time? Your phone probably has some kind of “screen time” report – find it and look at how much you are using your phone and which apps.

If you are not happy with the amount of time you spend with your phone in hand, tell yourself you will reduce it slightly this week. Any number lower than the one for last week counts as a success. Simply stating a goal to yourself focuses your attention and affects your behavior. Try it this week and check your statistics next Monday. You’ll probably be surprised.

Send Good Thoughts

Lotte Vesterli on January 7, 2021

Events like those yesterday in Washington D.C. affect many of us, but we can do little about them. Angrily shouting down other people on social media affects you negatively and doesn’t help in any way.

One way to cope is to sit down, close your eyes and think of the people involved. Send them all your hopes for a peaceful resolution. If you are religious, you can pray to your god.  Sending good thoughts will help you and might improve the world.

Achieve Your Goals

Lotte Vesterli on January 6, 2021

The goals you achieve are the ones you set with your heart. Goals that you set with your mind on January 1st while nursing a hangover have a very low success rate.

Let me show you how to set goals with your heart – goals you really, truly want to achieve. Join me online tomorrow at 4 pm CET/10 am EST and I’ll take you through the proven process I use to help my clients uncover their true goals. I will guide you through a meditation and help you find the strong, personal “Why” that will drive you to accomplish your goal.

Sign up here:

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Make a Contribution

Lotte Vesterli on January 5, 2021

Before Christmas, A US policeman was called to a shop to arrest af family that hadn’t scanned all their groceries. They told him they didn’t have enough money to make a Christmas dinner for their children. He let them off with a warning, and then used his own money to purchase them a gift card so they could buy what they needed for their Christmas dinner.

Take inspiration from this story, and improve your life in 2021 by helping someone. Feeling that we make a difference is the single factor that most positively affect our image of ourselves. The effect is strongest if we can directly see the difference we make. That’s why contributing time to a homeless shelter improves your life more than donating money to an abstract cause. Find your way to make a difference.

Practice Media Self Defense

Lotte Vesterli on January 4, 2021

2021 is starting well with more and more people receiving one of the Covid vaccinations. But notice what your media is focusing on: Some rollouts don’t go as fast as planned. Some places faces shortages. One in a million get an allergic reaction to one of the vaccines.

It is obvious that even in the face of a positive trend, the negative messages gets priority. That affects your mental health. Especially if you suffer from anxiety or low self-esteem.

In 2021, you need to practice mental self defense. Every time you are tempted to click on a negative headline, pause for one long slow breath. You will find that most of the time, you don’t need to read that article. Every time you succeed in not clicking, you are winning.